Do Your Habits Serve or Sabotage You? Ever notice when you’re acting out of habit? This morning as I was making a cup of my favorite tea, I realized this was one of my daily habits. I don’t even question it anymore because, well, it’s just my routine! ...read more
Settle Down? Down Where? Have you noticed how busy your mind is? I have. Although I’ve learned over the years to pay less and less attention to the noise. I like to think of it as being the DJ of my own mind, adjusting the volume, paying more attention to the tunes that I enjoy ...read more
What Lights You Up? (And WhyYou Should Pay Attention) How quickly can you give me a list of 5 things that you really, really enjoy and would spend most of your time doing it if you could? Did you time yourself? If you couldn't think of 5 things, could you think of 3? Next question: How many ..read more
Saying Yes When Your Mind Says No There are some things in life we just can't avoid: cavities, a bad meal at a restaurant, our cat throws up on the rug, flat tires, things that go wrong with our bodies. Both our evolutionary biases and our conditioning have provided ..read more
Independence From What? I've just come back from visiting two of my three older brothers after several years of missed visits. We had a great time reconnecting. Driving back from Cape Cod we experienced a ton of Fourth of July traffic ...read more.
Letting Ourselves Off the Hook How many of us know the origin of many of the sayings that are in our everyday lexicon? If you're over 40, many of the sayings that our parents shared and we find ourselves still using are no longer in use and have lost ..read more.
Letting Go of Assumptions I spoke with a friend of mine yesterday who had a revelation about how her assumptions were making her life so much harder. She had assumed people weren't interested in helping her, and whatever she had to do ..read more.
Is Kindness Allowed? What's your definition of kindness?I want to make a point that may at first seem like a downer, but it's for good reason, so bear with me. When a close friend's well-known husband was dying, he told his wife that the most important thing ..read more.
How to Throw a Wrench in the Works Depending on your age and where you're from, you may not be familiar with the idiom of throwing a wrench into the works. It basically means to disrupt a system or a process. This expression has an interesting origin; apparently it originated with ..read more.
Happiness: Just BE It! Apparently my head is full of wonderings right now - maybe you, too have entertained these thoughts at one time or another....Have you ever noticed if it's really true that your happiness depends on getting what you want? Or wanting what you have? ..read more.
Daring to be Lighthearted There is always good news hidden amongst the bad news. By the looks of things, there are some good things happening (for some of us). In the US, the CDC has issued a statement that vaccinated people no longer need to ...read more.
What Happens When You See Things Differently? Recently I discovered an art form known as surreal collage. When I'm in the mind-less flow of combining new possibilities that result in something totally unexpected, I find both delight and exhilaration at what emerges. ...read more.
Find Delight in Everyday Life I've realized that I'm often looking for the unexpected or the unfamiliar; things that will make me smile or shake my head in disbelief. And when I don't find them, I attempt to create something that will fall into this category. ...read more.
Are You Saying What Needs to Be Said? A few days ago, my dear friend's granddaughter made the chalk drawing pictured above after hearing her mother was feeling sad.I was struck by how deeply this child's spontaneous and perceptive response touched me. ...read more.
Is Your Life in Alignment with What You Love? Earlier this week I was in an online group (hosted by my friend Stephanie Benedetto Padovani) where we went into breakout rooms with one other person and for 10 minutes we took turns sharing what we love with our companion. It was amazing... read more.
Are You Trapped By Your Past? Have you ever found yourself wide awake way before your usual wakeup time, your mind already churning with unpleasant thoughts? That was me at exactly 4:45 am this morning. I couldn’t remember if if there had even been..read more
Can You Love Your Life Even if it's not Perfect? Very few people will say that their life is perfect. But what really is perfection? Is it outside ourselves in our external circumstances or does it come from an inner understanding of who we are. That may sound esoteric, but bear with me... read more
The Hallmark of Creativity? Starting Over. We have the opportunity to start over at any moment, but we rarely see the value of it. Actually, every morning, we start over. Our routines may be predictable ..read more
What To Do When You're Out of Ideas This past weekend I was working on a new online program but slowly it began to grind down to a halt. Every idea that came to me felt like a dud. Nothing felt right, everything that occurred to me seemed flimsy, or boring or just energetically flat. . .read more
Waking Up to a New World Can you imagine what it would be like to wake up one morning and find yourself happy, despite everything that's happening in the world? It's possible. In fact, that's the invitation every one of us has been given. ..read more
Are You a Possibilitarian? I ran across this word today - possibilitarian - and it has become my new descriptor! As far as I can tell, the word first appeared in Norman Vincent Peale's book, The Power of Positive Thinking, first published in 1952 ...read more
Want to Love Your Life? Not long ago I had a conversation with a friend who said in passing, there are a lot of things I don't particularly like in my life, but overall I love my life. It struck me as contradictory at first until we explored what he meant by it. ...read more.
Is Creativity Necessary for a Great Life? It all depends on what you want. Maybe you're happy with the status quo of your life or your job. Maybe you like predictability and having everything in place and keeping to a routine that is rarely interrupted.
An Unexpected Discovery Over the weekend I did a massive reorganization of both my office desk and my art supplies and now I have fresh space in which to create. In sorting out the piles of papers that were meant to be filed, I discovered ..read more
What's Stopping You? I'm reading The Greatest Secret by Rhonda Byrne right now, and a description of the mind in the book made me such an impression that I had to read it three times to take it in. The mind was described as having three functions ..read more..
Free Your Mind Ever feel like you're being held hostage by the endless thought stream going through your head? Telling you that you can't, you shouldn't or it can't be done or why bother? That used to be my dilemma. Read more..
Is Your Creative Genius Hiding in Plain Sight?There are two words in that question that most people would definitely not describe themselves as having: genius and creative. Are you one of them?.. Read more
Empty Headed or Clear Minded? Have you ever had the experience where you didn't have a lot on your mind and felt wonderful as a result? You may have noticed a feeling of lightness, relaxation, openness...read more
Is Stress Really Necessary? When all is said and done, beneath pandemic fatigue, beneath the political goings on, beneath juggling parental responsibilities with professional responsibilities, your own state of mind is what gets you through. Or else it plunges you into ..read more
Is Creativity in Your Future? Actually, it's already here now. And if that's the case, What would it mean to breathe life back into your daily existence and really become excited about waking up every morning?All it takes is a willingness to explore your own creative nature...read more.
Can We Really Replace Fear with Love? I'm talking about harnessing the immense power of love to transform the way so many of us are feeling right now about the pandemic, currently being referred to as "pandemic burnout" or "pandemic fatigue." Love is a transformative power that ... read more.
How to Get Out of Your Own Way Have you ever noticed how much time can be spent thinking about what’s in the way (and why it shouldn’t be) before you take action? Sometimes, of course, the thoughts are subtle and hard to pin down, but that doesn’t stop us from having unsettling or . ...Read more
Just Take A Moment Sometimes all it takes is a moment of stopping to notice something wonderful that brings you back to yourself. That's what I'm seeing more and more. I've noticed that when I'm up in my head I get so ..read more
You Don't "Have to" - You "Get to"! Ever stop to notice how it makes you feel when you think you have to do something? Nobody likes feeling forced to do anything; in fact, most people will do the opposite when they’re told they "have to". Just look ...read more
The Good News About Being Stuck Wait a minute - Is that even possible? How could being stuck be a good thing? Well, let’s start here: there’s a difference between a concept and an actual situation. For instance, nobody would confuse a menu ... Read more.
Are You Interested in Inner Freedom? I sure am! Regardless of whatever is happening in the world, I want to stay centered and grounded in my own peace of mind and in touch with that infinite creative potential inside me. Read more.
Are You a Hoarder? In this week's Listening2Wisdom call we were discussing how our unexamined thinking keeps us from feeling the aliveness of life. And it suddenly occurred to me that most of us ... read more.
What Remains When the Surface is Removed For the past year or so I've been making art composed of layers of painted papers. Once there are enough layers, I take an electric sander to it and see what lies beneath the surface... read more.
Covid 19: Free Pass to the Roller Coaster of Feelings Who in their right mind would want a free pass to the kind of roller coaster ride that life has taken us on for the past couple of months? My own feelings have gone from exhilaration to hopelessness and ... read more.
Grace Under Pressure From all the conversations I’ve been having with people lately, there are precious few who have not felt under tremendous pressure from the realization that we aren’t in control of external circumstances nor is there ...read more
Now IS the Time to Notice Beauty One of my favorite stories is from Brenda Euland’s book, If You Want to Write. She describes an event with the artist Vincent Van Gogh: “When Van Gogh was a young man in his early twenties, ... read more
Hanging With the Wrong Crowd The world has become a different place in just a few weeks, hasn’t it? We’re being challenged to respond in a way that’s almost unthinkable for us in the US. And even though physical distancing is becoming the new norm, there’s still the possibility ...read more
Make Your Life Simpler Have you ever wondered what you could do to make your life simpler? Do you long to get more done (more easily) so you could actually enjoy your life more? Pretty much everybody’s had the experience of not knowing what to do. . read more
What Could Be Different For You This Year? You probably don’t need to be reminded that we’ve been steeped in the tradition of making new year’s resolutions - and usually breaking them before we get very far into the new year. Is it even worth ..read more
Everything is a Miracle What would happen if, in the midst of our everyday lives, we suddenly had a lightbulb moment of how incredibly rich and beautiful and amazing our lives are? We’re so often caught up in our heads about ...read more
Do You Have a Negativity Bias? Ever wondered why people rubberneck in traffic when there’s been an accident? Researchers attribute this to something called negativity bias—as they describe it, a tendency of the brain to focus on what’s going wrong ..read more
Are You Really Seeing Or Just Assuming? I am smitten by color. I love wearing color, I love seeing color; my first impulse on seeing bright shades of color - with paint, for instance - is to want to put them in my mouth and taste them. ...read more
Happiness and Resilience: What Making Art Can Teach Us Can making art (or any creative process) show us something about how to live a happier and more resilient life? As an artist who’s spent thousands of hours making things (and sometimes destroying them afterwards) ...read more
Wherever You Go, There You Are “Wherever you go, there you are” was a phrase made famous in the 1984 cult film classic, The Adventures of Buckaroo Banzai. You come across variations of this statement in many diverse writings from buddhism to ..read more.
Is Stress Making You Sick? A while ago I had a conversation with one of my clients who told me how, whenever he became overwhelmed, he would get a migraine headache and often had to leave work because it was so debilitating. If you’ve ever had ...read more
What I Wish My Humans Knew First of all, when I was in a physical body, I had the best home any cat could have wanted: I could roam free, climb trees, chase butterflies, feel the sunshine on my fur, and snuggle down on soft beds ...read more
Looking Backwards Labor Day has come and gone and even though the weather is still balmy and warm, summer is clearly over. It happens every year: everything in me resists this inevitability read more...
Do Your Thoughts Get Dark and Stormy? Mine do, from time to time. As a matter of fact, mine are just clearing up. I was in a low place emotionally for a few days, as if my mood was deliberately matching our weather in the northeast: dark, cloudy skies punctuated with read more...
Can't Focus? Do you find yourself with a long list of things that you want or need to get done but you can’t seem to focus, so you move from one thing to another, not getting anything done with any sense of ease or satisfaction? ...read more
An Instant Formula for New Ideas Here's the formula: Notice what’s in front of you. Now, you might be indignantly wondering, what’s that supposed to mean? What if you want something other than what’s in front of you (which might seem like nothing)?...read more
Talk Yourself Out of Another Great Idea? I’ve had two separate conversations this week with clients who did a terrific job of talking themselves out of great ideas. And then a day later I did the same thing. With me, I had an idea of something I wanted to create and share ...read more
Is Your Busyness Keeping You From Getting Things Done? One of the most frequent but least recognized signs that fear is holding me back is that I’m very busy but not getting to what really needs to be done...read more
What's that Feeling in the Pit of my Stomach? You know what it’s like when your stomach is tied up in knots?That used to happen to me a lot, especially when I was rushing to get something done. I’d get distracted from the job at hand and spend...read more
How Cool is This? Recently I had such a wild experience that I just had to share it with you. Because if it can happen to me, it can certainly happen to you. Although I haven’t yet achieved superhuman status yet (honestly I have a very long way to go) ...read more
How to Make Your New Year Happier This morning as I was waiting for a fresh wind to set my sails and send me on my way, I started to read my email. The first email was a lovely note from a dear friend who was looking forward to the Universe bringing a better year of.. read more
Why Be Open to Life? In many personal growth programs we’re told we should be open to what life brings us. But what does that mean, exactly? And what does it say about us when we can’t or don’t know how? As I talk with friends and clients (and based on what I’ve noticed ... read more
Simple Ways to Transform Your Life As a transformative coach, I am constantly reminded by my clients (and yes, in my own life, too) how much we habitually but innocently get our own way when trying to create the results we want, whether it’s ... read more
Get Clarity and Confidence with Just 2 Simple Questions Have you been nudged by the recurring urge to simplify? Downsize? Just get rid of all the things that, as they say in the metaphysical and healing worlds, “no longer serve you”? No doubt you’ve let yourself notice how much stuff ...read more
Are You Driven by Fear or Love? How much time do you spend worrying, fretting, obsessing, stressing about your life? All the things you’re not doing that you think you should be doing (or that someone else thinks you should be doing). All the ways you can, or should .. read more
The Number One Way to Keep Your Vision Alive and Well If you’ve spent time nurturing a vision for your personal life or your business, you know keeping that vision alive requires clarity, focus and momentum. And that momentum can get derailed in any number of ways ..read more
Why Stop Trying to Figure it Out? Have you ever experienced the following scenario? You’ve been struggling really hard to figure something out but the answer is still as elusive as ever and you hit overload - hard. You could easily imagine sparks shooting out of your head and smoke ..read more
What Are You Trying to Prove? One of my clients, a successful lawyer, recently confessed that as she was pushing to accomplish one of her goals, and stressing about whether she could in fact make it happen, she was stopped in her tracks by a single insight. ..read more
Do Your Goals Reflect Your Heart's Desire? We’re almost a month into the new year, and a client of mine, “Nancy", who’d made her New Year’s resolutions prior to January 1st, was already starting to waiver. This may seem surprising to you, but just look at your local gym ... read more
Why My Cat is My Spiritual Teacher My cat has a heart condition which is slowly killing him. He’s been living on borrowed time since his diagnosis a few months ago and has gone from a robust, ..read more
3 Simple Tips to Surviving the Holidays If you’ve been caught up in the holiday season, buying gifts, going to parties (or throwing parties) or going out to meet friends for holiday cheer, it can feel like way too much to do in way too short a time frame. If that same feeling is in your job, ...read more
3 Convincing Reasons to Live an Inspired Life "Inspiration transforms a person from experiencing a culture of apathy to experiencing a world of possibility.” Scott Kaufman. It’s not uncommon for me to get a certain response when I tell people.. read more
3 Secrets to Enjoying the Holidays Did you know that trying to ignore our feelings makes them worse? Did you know that 40% of happiness is a result of intentionally choosing what we do each day? And did you know that the rest of the time our actions are done while we’re on autopilot? Read more
5 Quick Steps to Get Your Mojo Back Did you know most of the world suffers from negative mental habits? You might even be one of them: making yourself feel worse when you call yourself stupid if you forget to do something, or you do it “the wrong way.”Maybe you’re prone to worrying, Read more
3 Ways to Keep Your Energy High Are you one of those people who gets a sinking feeling when you hear about what’s going on in the world? Do you feel overwhelmed not only by all you want to accomplish in your life but by the unending onslaught of bad news day after day after day? Read more
5 Reasons to Do Good in a World Gone Bad I recently heard Caroline Casey (visionary activist and shamanic astrologer) quote a writer who said: “Tragedy is not a credential. it’s an assignment.” That struck me as a wonderfully radical and inspiring call to action, which got me thinking about how we could Read more..
Pain Relief for the Soul When I spoke at a gathering at a funeral home recently, I shared three qualities that people tap into when they’re forced to deal with life-altering loss. They were courage, compassion and curiosity. And now, as I listen to the news about ongoing devastation and loss read more
Tired of Living by the Rules? Go Rogue! I’ve had some really provocative conversations with women recently, so I’m on a bit of a rant. These conversations were about what it means to really be free. To unlock the cage door many of us have found ourselves behind when we’ve spent way too much time living Read more
What? You've Made a Mess? Excellent! When I took an abstract painting workshop with Jane Davies last August, she encouraged us to make a mess with our paints and papers. Let it get “ugly,” she said. If your first response to this suggestion is surprise mixed with disbelief and a touch of resistance, join the club. Read more
Why You Need to Be Inspired Now Almost everyone I’ve talked to lately feels like they’re drowning in a steady stream of social, political and environmental bad news. Even if you’re not directly taking a hit, you’re still affected by the confusion and fear and overwhelm that seem to permeate the air. Read more
Change Your Life in Just 48 Hours? One of my clients (I’ll call her Mary) was ready to tear her hair out. Well, not literally, but she was so fed up with the sameness of her life (which looked pretty nice, on the surface of it) that she found herself by turns agitated, bored, impatient, depressed and hungry for something new and different to come into her life. Read more
The Secret to Keeping Your Summer Mindset - Even at the End of August Has this happened to you, yet? This week it suddenly hit me that Labor Day was only a few days away, and then it would all be over. Summer, that is. Everything in me resisted. Despite current events, I had still been able to enjoy the summer; letting the warmth Read more
The Cure for Mental Overload For those times when your thoughts make you feel stressed out and victimized, I've got just the thing for you. It's a technique my tribe has been using very effectively, so I want you to get the same results. You’ve probably already heard or read the astonishing statistics Read more..
5 Infallible Ways to Stay Inspired During Change and Upheaval When world events and natural disasters take an unexpected turn (which they do more and more these days), it can send shock waves through our lives. And if you’re already going through a personal transition that’s rocking your proverbial boat... Read more...
Inspiration: Invite It Into Your Life How many of us can say our lives are filled with inspiration? Or even know how to recognize it when it comes to us? If you like the idea of living an inspired life, here are the ways to know it and to bring it into your life. Read more..
10 Different Ways to Rewire Your Neural Circuits Ever find yourself stuck on a left-brain runaway train? Your thoughts (not happy ones ) are out of control and they’re taking you with them? Here are 10 things you can do, to put on the brakes and shift gears to a more positive and even-tempered state of mind. Read more...
3 Good Reasons to Let Go of Resistance Now There comes a point when it becomes painfully obvious just how exhausting it is to resist events in life. For some of us, there have to be many such points until we’re ready to do something different. Here’s a typical scenario: Read more..
Self Healing Through Self Compassion Becoming mindful of negative self-talk can begin a process of healing within you that will not only mend your own broken heart but make you more compassionate and more understanding Read more...
The Secret to Success In the New Year Have you ever questioned why we set resolutions for the new year? It’s a tradition we’ve all been encouraged to participate in, despite the fact that most people’s resolutions go by the wayside within a matter of weeks. Read more...
Replace Holiday Expectations with Year-Round Intentions One of the blessings the holidays provide is a real “in your face” moment to see just how much our unrealistic expectations can make us suffer. You know, that picture of what should be happening, but isn't? Read more..
Turn Holiday Loneliness into Holiday Love For a lot of people, the holidays are painful. Especially if you’re single, separated or divorced or grieving the loss of a loved one. Read more..
Delete The Need to React (with free Healing Audio) Let’s face it: family gatherings during the holidays can be stressful. We've all been exposed to some idealized picture about family reunions where everyone is happy and kind... Read more....
Choosing Love Anyway It’s not news to anyone that we live in a world where great acts of humanity occur side by side with horrific acts of terrorism and destruction. Read more..
Just a Few Simple Steps to Serenity These days it’s rare to find someone that isn’t stressed out about something. Whatever the cause may be, there are a few simple steps you can take to recalibrate your emotional and physical readout; Read more...
Are You Planning to Be Stressed Out? What?! Of course you don't! But if you look a little deeper, that’s what we often do when we think about the future. Read more..
Getting Off the Gerbil Wheel of Life It’s easy to get stuck in automatic pilot mode when there’s “so much to do, so little time to do it”! Especially when we have demanding jobs, lead busy lives, Read more..
Meeting Your Worries With Kindness Do you have a tendency to worry? Do your thoughts get caught in a negative feedback loop when you find yourself concerned about what will happen to you, Read more..
Why Your Body Likes Positive Intentions What kind of expectations do you have for your day, your week, your life? When you get up in the morning, do you make the effort to have good intentions but as the day goes by Read more..